If you are a Seinfeld fan like me, you may recall and appreciate the freak–out of character George Costanza’s freak out character when his friends would connect with his fiancé and vice versa. In his bubble of safety, these worlds should be on two different planets. Well, this is how I have managed my work and home life throughout the last five wonderful and busy years in nonprofit leadership.
I work hard and stay 100% focused during my workday, and then make sure that I am just as focused on high–quality time my kids and husband when I am home at night. While I did often miss them while at work, we had the comfort of structure and consistency.
Fast–forward to a global pandemic and day 35 at home with twin four-year–olds and a two-year-old and my work and life boundaries are smudged. and I have tiny co-workers either nearby on conference calls or crying and banging on the office door to “give me one more kiss.” I love my people dearly, but I am missing the boundaries of my once–simplified work and home lives.
Brief Log of Everyday Occurrences:
I am fortunate to have my incredible family, and am blessed to be employed, have food to eat, and have a supportive home and work environment. As I acknowledge and practice gratitude every day, I am writing this blog to give myself, and every other parent out there, permission to feel – maybe even scream a little if needed. As the famous researcher and author Brené Brown put it, there is no comparative suffering. As humans who are surviving this together, we need to be okay with not comparing our suffering. People working at home without kids or elders are also suffering and grieving. How can we support these neighbors too?
These are things that have helped me recently:
Please know that you are not alone, and that there are people all around you who need human connection just as much as you do. I know that I do, and Zoom meetings don’t really cut it! Reach out and connect. It‘s so much easier to survive uncertainty when we do it together.