I love a good self-care moment and, like our friends from Grief’s Journey said in their blog, What is Self-Care, Really?, everyone’s self-care looks different. For me, self-care usually means watching Netflix or reading a book in my room with my favorite candle lit and a cooling face mask working its magic. However, COVID-19 has impacted my self-care just as I’m sure it has yours.
It’s Mental Health Awareness Month and I wanted to share part of my story. I was diagnosed with anxiety in 2017, just a few months after having my first child. Becoming a mother broke open my emotions with such power; it knocked me down HARD. Before my baby, I had a false confidence that I was in control and that no one had to know when I was struggling. Feeling down? Just be positive, Sheena! Don’t let people doubt that you got this! But it wasn’t working.
Grief’s Journey is a member of The Wellbeing Partners who offer free grief services for all ages. They launched several COVID-19 support resources, including a guide for talking to children about COVID-19, a guide for saying goodbye when you can’t hold a funeral, and weekly online education about ambiguous grief, types of loss, supporting grieving youth, and more. Consider donating to them to support continued services during the pandemic.
During these unprecedented times, your mindset is probably the last thing you are concerned about. After all, how is your mindset going to help you put food on the table when you just got laid off? How is it going to help you juggle homeschooling your kids while you are working from home? And how is it going to help you find precious resources in short supply? (Hello hand sanitizer and toilet paper!) Well, your mindset will determine how you react to all of these situations. And the beauty is it’s all under your control.
A study of brain activity found that those who just pledged to spend money on a friend saw more brain activity associated with altruism and happiness. According to the same study, small acts of generosity had the same effect as large acts. Another study concluded that the positive effects of generosity on blood pressure are equal to those from interventions like medication and exercise. Other reports show...
If you are a Seinfeld fan like me, you may recall and appreciate the freak-out of character George Costanza’s freak out character when his friends would connect with his fiancé and vice versa. In his bubble of safety, these worlds should be on two different planets. Well, this is how I have managed my work and home life throughout the last five wonderful and busy years in nonprofit leadership.
Today, with the pandemic, our world has changed. There are daily reminders in the news of COVID-19 attacking the respiratory system, patients being intubated, and shortage of ventilators. Life is difficult now and has turned our routines upside-down. Daily life is not the same and our lives have been affected. Can all this stop? How can we make sense of it? How can we handle it? It may seem to be spinning out of control… STOP… Just breathe!
At 6 a.m., I was briskly walking the length of my house from front door to dining room carrying hand weights while listening to NPR’s “Morning Edition.” This wasn’t how I had planned to celebrate 40 years of morning workouts. However, it’s the new normal until my gym re-opens.
Quarantine means that we don’t have our usual opportunities for physical activity. Parents may be used to going to the gym or yoga studio. Children are used to running with friends at recess, going to PE class, and participating in sports. During this time of physical distancing, it’s important to re-evaluate exercise routines as a family and make sure that everyone is getting their needs for physical activity met.
Throughout the course of my life I have had to work hard at something. Whether it be work, my relationships, sports, my attitude, my finances, school, or my personal health and wellbeing, there has always been a time when I have needed to be better or do better. During those times I have leaned on my family, good friends and mentors, growth opportunities, my faith, and great books. So many books! One of my favorite authors of the many books I have read is Brene Brown – I have learned so much from reading her material, listening to her podcasts, and engaging in her work.